Gay men’s sexual currency has too often been tied to their physical appearance in a culture where traditional beauty standards prize muscles, youth, large endowment, and whiteness. Those without these traits may not see themselves reflected in cultural sexual images and endure rejection and criticism. Such rejection often intersects with experiences of racism, sexism, ageism, and body shaming. These experiences leave men feeling even more isolated than before and can have a profound impact on one’s sense of worth. How can such standards be deconstructed or resisted? How have gay male subcultures fostered community among those who belong to a wider spectrum of gay self expression? What can be learned from members of the community who have successfully navigated a perilous terrain teaming with oppressive beauty standards.